1. They can be real bitches
2. Their drama always pisses me off
3. It might be possible that you can actually die from worrying too much
Where do you draw the line, as a mother, between how much teenage girl drama to get involved in and how much to let them work out on their own? I remember only a few instances where my mother got involved with my teenage drama.
Once, when some crazy chick (who has sent me about five friend requests through Facebook because apparently she is so stupid that she can't figure out that if, we were not friends in high school, we are not going to be friends now) harassed me to the point that she actually showed up at my front door and proceeded to inform my mother that she was there to "kick my ass". Oops. I guess someone forgot to tell her that my mother had no problem ripping her to shreds. See what I mean about stupid? Sometimes you just can't outgrow stupid. As I said before, no names shall be mentioned to protect the stupid but I can give you some hints.
1. Her name could also be considered one of the most common stripper names
2. Kids love to eat it, and if it's chocolate I love to eat it too.
3. It rhymes with sandy.
See how that works? Three is a magic number and I still refrained from giving away the identity of those that irritate me most.
Anyway, there might have been another time or two that my mom mediated between my 'besties' and myself when we had a falling out. Of course, back then, whatever the problem was must have been the most dramatic thing ever (the equivalent to each and every episode of the Bachelor) but only the most upsetting and hurtful were the times I told my mother about and therefore she intervened.
So now, as a mother, when my teenage daughter comes to me in tears I weigh carefully whether or not to get involved or to let her work it out on her own. Yesterday, I got involved. I chose to get involved because she was being unfairly accused of something and treated horribly by the person that is her best friend. As a mother it is the most helpless feeling in the world to see your child hurting and know that there is little, if anything, you can do about it. If I can do something about it, trust me, I will.
So without going into too many details the general outline is as follows: Best friend goes on vacation and makes some stupid decisions. I see/hear/read bits & pieces of information over the course of a month to basically figure out a general idea of what happened. I know parents of best friend know most of it as best friend has already been punished but think there might be more to the story than everyone knows. I jokingly make a comment regarding not knowing whether or not I want to see the vacation photos and the next day the best friend has:
1. told my daughter not to speak to her anymore because she is not trustworthy and that my daughter is the reason she is trouble
2. Made passive aggressive status updates toward my daughter and then proceed to tear her apart via chat
3. De-friend me
So, yeah...I got involved.
Let's break this down. First, all the 'intel' I had came from one text message I overhead and then read, information parents of best friend told me, and then direct comments from the culprit herself. I think she might be so caught in trying to make herself sound cool and between the truth and lies she has forgotten what she has said and to whom. Secondly, she then makes comments towards my daughter on facebook and then has a "chat" with her accusing her of being at fault, telling her not to talk to her, she can't trust her, etc. until she virtually hangs up on their conversation.
So apparently there was more to the story and the off the cuff comment I made gave her some food for thought and so she went home and confessed something to her parents. Thirdly, when I told her in no uncertain terms to grow up, she would no longer treat my daughter that way or blame her for her own dumb choices, and that she wouldn't come to my home again until she apologized to my daughter and to me...she de-friended me. LOL. Apparently in the teen world that is something worth losing sleep over. Meanwhile I have been playing phone tag with mother of best friend, who at this point, probably thinks I know about whatever best friend confessed to and didn't tell her about it. The drama never ends.
So back to my list. I am pretty sure that teen girls could be the death of me. And people wonder why I drink so much wine.
